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Even when they're good, they're a pain in the ass.
Cause look, my kid, he's not a bad kid. He doesn't drink or smoke or do drugs. He works pretty hard in school and gets decent grades. He doesn't miss curfew or sneak out at night. So what right do I have to complain, right?
Oh please. You know me better than that.
Geez, HIS ATTITUDE. I ask him to take out the trash and he acts so put out. As if I've expected him to repave the driveway before he can have any supper. Cinderfuckingella, that's who. Cinderelijah.
I text him to remind him to empty the dishwasher before I get home from work but when I get home it's still full of clean dishes and he forgot. He had too much homework. He has zero time management skills and the memory of a flea.
When I get angry because he blows off a chore, I yell, "You're not going anywhere tomorrow!" which to me meant, "You're on restriction for one day for not doing what you're told." but he heard, "Come straight home from school tomorrow but feel free to go out later on with your friends." Sadly, I don't think he was being manipulative. I think he really just doesn't get it. And I swear I'm not being niave. He didn't run off to commit helterskelter; he went to church. He goes every Wednesday. It never occurred to him that I meant he couldn't go.
I'm torn between demanding that he COME HOME IMMEDIATELY YOU ARE ON RESTRICTION GODDAMMIT and asking him to bring me home a milkshake.
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i know nothing about parenting, but i do know that there aren't many things better than a milkshake brought /to/ me.
Go with the milkshake - really what do expect - he is a boy. Plus how long does he really get to be a kid?
plus - don't you get to use his computer when he is not home or did you get a new laptop?
I'd be all about the milkshake. He sounds like a great kid.
ha - you sound like you are talking about MY teenage son!!! EXACTLY!!
He'll forget to do the dishwasher in the three hours after school while I'm at work, then when I get home it's dinnertime and then after dinner-OHMYGOD MOM- I HAVE HOMEWORK TO DO!!!!!!!
The three hours after school though--were spent on the computer or playing guitar. He can;t possibly do anything for school before 7:30pm apparently.
It is frustrating because my son also does not drink or smoke or do drugs (or I'm fairly sure anyway) and he does get good grades and is a really good kid, but geesh, can I get a little HELP around here once in awhile????
sadly, my husband has the exact same attitude anytime i ask him to do anything around the house.
don't know what he was like as a teen, but as an a adult, he comes off as extremely resentful about doing anything around the house that i have to ask him to do. i swear sometimes i can here the "uh, seriously?" in his voice and see the eye roll.
teach e. not to do that to his future wife, please.
Debbie, how do you think I got this post up?
exactly what I thought - hope you enjoyed your milkshake and let your son enjoy his childhood. One day he will thank you for it
.. try working with them in a restaurant.. it's like home, only amplified. Our brains are still growing until we're 18 or so.. so there's still time to mold and shape and inculcate and ..did i mention mold and shape to your will? .. that time management thing? it comes with age and having to manage things. Treasure the thought that some day he'll suddenly realize how great he had it as a kid and how cool a parent you are. Now if he can think enough to just bring you the milkshake without you having to ask.. that'll be something!
Mine think that "but I was doing homework" absolve them of all responsibility for assigned chores. It's not like I want them clean the entire house -- just empty the dishwasher, or take out the trash, or fold a load of laundry.
I know there's nothing in the list of household chores that they CAN'T do. Laundry, cooking, dishes, sweeping, vacuuming, dusting, trash, recycle; they have learned to do it all (except the 12-year-old doesn't iron yet). It's just more fun to have someone do it for them.
The important thing is that the children have learned HOW at home, so that when they go off to college, they will be ABLE.
And in the meantime, don't sweat the small stuff, and all housework is small stuff.
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