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So apparently, when My Kid and Spice Girl broke up last month, they never actually got back together even though they've been talking and hanging out and I even took the two of them - just the two of them, not meeting a group - to a movie like a week ago.
Now Spice Girl thinks she's ready to get back with My Kid, but he's moving on. He's got his eye on a SOPHOMORE girl from his algebra class. This afternoon, while I was drying my toes at the nail salon, Spice Girl texts me and says that she knows now that it's really over b/c My Kid has moved Soph Girl to his number 1 spot on his MySpace page.
Ouch.
That's gotta hurt. Then she says that she wants to talk to him and she's going to walk over to the house and is he home? So I text My Kid to warn him, you know, b/c I don't want him taken by surprise. And he's all "No, Mom" and I'm all, "Hey, wasn't my idea."
When I get home Big Daddy tells me I should have just stayed out of it and I'm like WHAT DID I DO?? He thinks if the Kid doesn't want to talk to her he shouldn't have to b/c it upsets him but I'm thinking he can't be all that upset if he's staying up past midnight on the phone with Soph Girl.
I don't want My Kid to be the kind of guy who avoids relationship closure b/c it's just easier that way. I told him he was being a pussy that he needs to go finish it. Big Daddy thinks I should stay out of it and let him do whatever he wants.
What do you think?
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I see your point and I see Big Daddy's point; however I tend to side with your decision because the Kid has to realize that relationship closure is a good thing - just deal with it face on and *boom* you can still maintain the friendship in the long run.
He needs to talk to her. Not just for closure, but because he needs to learn kindness, and he needs to learn that his own feelings are not the only thing he should have to consider - that other people's feelings deserve consideration and care too. You don't want to raise an a-hole. (Not that I am saying he is on in anyway, that's not what I mean, I just mean, you don't want to reinforce behavior that might eventually lead to thinking his feelings are the only ones that matter.)
see, sue, that's kinda how I was thinking. It's not that I'm on "her side" so much as I just remember what it feels like...
Back in my twenties, when a boyfriend broke up with me via e-mail, a friend of mine said, "They should teach you how to break up in school. Why don't they teach everyone the IMPORTANT stuff?" So true. Kudos to you for teaching your son how to deal with some of the more unpleasant aspects of human relationships. :)
I think it would be great for him to explain things to Spice Girl. I'm still trying to get my head around the fact that she texts her ex-boyfriend's mom. I'm so unprepared for parenting in the 21st century... good thing it's a long way away.
I'm with you. We have to teach our little boys how to deal with their ladies with kindness and respect. They need to be taught this stuff and I think he's REALLY lucky to have a Mom like you who will try and make him do the right thing.
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